Hey, my friend, what is up? And welcome back to another episode of Do Life Big. Today, we are going to be talking all about how we can destroy this little bitch voice inside of our head that's holding us back. That's what I like to call it anyway, because it's just constantly trying to derail us. And now you might be sitting here thinking like, all right, well, what voice are you even talking about? Kathi? You know, I don't have that little voice inside of me holding me back. And you know what that right there is the little voice telling you that you don't have a voice inside holding you back. That's a perfect example of it right there.
We have all got some kind of narration that's happening inside of us, but the thing that I've learned about most people is that this little voice is a voice trying to keep us in the same exact place, trying to keep us inside our comfort zone and keep us from change. It's just a safety mechanism, because that's what our brain is designed to do, to protect and keep you safe. But if you're going to create the life that you want, you're going to have to work through that little bitch voice, because everything in life that you want is on the other side of your fears. It's on the other side of that little voice inside your head. It's on the other side of the excuses that you continue to keep telling yourself as to why you aren't where you're meant to be. You know, Will Smith had said a quote before. He said, God, put all the amazing things in life on the other side of fear. And it's so true, and every person in this world has fear. It's just the way that it is. That's what is part of being a human. No one is exempt from that, and so we have these fears to protect ourselves. You know, these fears like, I'm not good enough, I'm not smart enough, maybe a fear of being rejected, fear of failure, a fear of success, fear of other people's opinions.
There's so many different fears. And the fear that I have, personally is that if I listen to all those fears that I just listed off to you, then I'm not going to get the life that I want, and I don't want that. I don't want to get to the end of my life and look back and think that I didn't do, say or act on the things that were really in my heart because of this fear, and I let it have the power over me. And so we're constantly working against this living in those fears is literally living in the prison of your own mind, and then that turns into you not living a life fully lived and actually feeling fear, believe it or not, is a good thing, because when you feel fear inside your body, it's your body telling you know, danger, danger, danger. It's showing you that you are on the edge of your comfort zone, assuming that you're not in like a life-or-death situation. You get what I'm saying, right?
So fear is a really good thing, because it's showing you that you are on the edge of growing. You are on the edge of a breakthrough. You are on the edge of growth, and the only way that you get there is by going through the fears and doing the things that you don't want to do anyways, you know, I can think back to, gee, she wasn't even that long ago, and I might have shared this a long time ago about how I want to be a motivational speaker. I want to go around the world, and I want to speak at different events. I want to host my own yearly live events. And when I sat back and really thought about it, I was like, all right. I mean, I've spoken before, here and there. Throughout my last 10 years, I've spoken in front of audiences. I lead team calls all the time with many, many people on them, but I wanted to make it more of a consistent yearly thing, like three to five times a year I get hired to go speak at these events. And I took a step back and I thought, all right, I mean, how can I make this happen? Where do I need to start? And I had just gotten an email from my children's school, and it's a big school, it's like Pre-K all the way up to grade 12, and in this email, it said, we're looking for speakers. We're looking for people who have something of value that they would like to either share and present to either our students, the faculty, I don't even know, there was a couple other things listed on there, and my immediate reaction was like, hell no, there is no freaking way I am doing that. No way. Nope, don't want to do it. That's way too scary. Never done that before. I mean, I know it was a teacher, but it's different. When you go in and you are presenting and you're speaking on a stage with a massive audience, whether it's kids or faculty or staff, whoever.
So immediately I'm like, no, and my husband was like, you know you should fill that out. And I'm like, I know I'm gonna do it. And I did. I submitted the paperwork, I filled it all out, I told them what I'd like to speak about, and I sent it in, and my point is, is that every piece of my body was like, oh my god, this is so uncomfortable. That's so scary. Like, I've never done it before. Do you really want to do that? Like, just keep doing what you're doing. Like, why do you want to do that? That's kind of crazy, isn't it? Like, I don't know what if they don't really like what you have to say, what? All these things, but I've trained myself that when I feel that fear, that type of fear, to just do it anyway. Just do it anyway. So I did so I'll keep you posted. I'm waiting here on that. Haven't heard back yet, but I'm sure I will at some point, and I'll let you know how it goes. So, the problem is that we have trained ourselves to fall back when we feel this fear, right? You know, you have this idea, this thing comes your way, something's presented to you, you have this thought, you have this idea, whatever it may be, and then we fall back. Oh, you know what? Never mind. I'm just not going to do that. Forget about it. Never mind. And we push it aside.
And we unconsciously train ourselves to do that. But if you know your life is not actually in danger, then you can train yourself to push past the fear and lean in just a little bit. You can train yourself to say, Okay, wait a minute. I'm on the edge of my comfort zone right now. I can feel it, so I'm gonna just lean into these fears just a little bit, because we all have this little voice inside of us, but it's either pushing us forward or it's pulling us back. And for most of us, and even for me, for the first 30 years of my life, it's holding us back because it wants what's familiar. It wants what it feels is safe, and your brain will trick you into staying the same. It will trick you into not taking action outside of your comfort zone. But here's the thing, if you want a better life, the life you want is on the other side of that comfort zone. It's on the other side of the actions that you're afraid to take, and nothing will ever change unless you are willing to make a change. Everything will stay the same if you don't do something different. And it's really crazy to me, how many people want something to be different, but then they're unwilling to do something different to get that result, and then they keep putting the control of their life getting better based on, oh, let's hope the economy gets better, or, oh, the president, or, you know, oh my gosh, maybe I'll win the lottery, or whatever it may be. Listen, plain and simple, if you want a different life, you have got to be the one who goes out and gets it. No one else is going to change it for you. No one's coming to save you. It's all you baby, doing the same thing over and over and over again, and expecting a different outcome is literally the definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over and over again, thinking that maybe magically, one of these times it's going to be different. It's crazy. It's not happening. Nothing will change. You must be different if you want different. All right, you must be different if you want different. And that's why some people literally stay in the exact same place they were as 10 years ago. They're in the same place. Mentally, they're in the same place, physically, emotionally, they stay the same. That's not going to be you, because you're listening to Do Life Big. And I know the people who listen to Do Life Big want to grow, and they want to live their best life, and they're okay with saying that they have fears and challenges, but I know that you're someone who's willing to push past it and do it anyway, right?
Like, if you look at your next year, or the entire year of 2025. Your next year is going to look exactly like this last year. If you don't do something different about it, you have to be the external force that changes where you're going. You've got to be the person who takes action, because no one else is going to do it for you. And trust me, I know that change and uncertainty is hard. I'm not dismissing that. I know it is. You gotta do it anyway. You see what I'm saying, doing something different is hard, and the first step is definitely the hardest. But if you want something different, you've got to be the person to do something different. We all have to go through this, and you have to understand that no matter what, no matter what, that little bitch voice inside your head will always be there, always it's just that after training your brain on this, the voice will start to get a little softer, a little quieter, and it isn't as noticeable. And so if you need a little help with this and you haven't downloaded this yet, I have a completely free workbook called Think this not that, where it will literally show you what the most common limiting beliefs are on repeat in our brands, and what we can replace that thought with this is how you start to retrain your brain to think better thoughts, right?
You can just go to Kathireuter.com/thinkthisnotthat I will put it in the show notes for you. Definitely want to download that and get working on that, though it's everything. So you've got to realize that that little inner voice that you notice it's there, but it's not always speaking the truth and that you need to take action regardless of it, that inner voice is just a reflex, but it's not your reality. It's not and you may hear us say things like, you know you're not good enough. You're not smart enough. What if you succeed and lose it all? What if you know, what? If people laugh at you? Oh, don't bother getting up and working out. Just hit the alarm. Sleep in. You're not good enough to grow a business. What are you thinking? You might hear these things. So just recognize that all these little voices, all of them, are rooted in fear. They're rooted in fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of getting out of your comfort zone, fear of uncertainty, your brain is wired to protect. Once you understand that, it's a little bit easier to push past that little inner bitch voice and take the action, even though you do feel a little bit of fear. See, the fear never goes away. The fear is always there. It's just not as obnoxious, and you choose to take action anyways. You know, the protection doesn't always equal progress. And so what I really recommend is that you become like really good friends with that little inner bridge voice. Notice it when it pops up. Listen to it. Don't fight it. You know, get to know what it's trying to do, what it's trying to show you. And then whenever it does pop up, here's what I'm going to tell you to do, do whatever the opposite of what it's telling you to do. Always do the opposite.
So if it says don't work out, work out. If it says you know what, don't write the book. Write the book. Don't make your bed. Make your bed. Don't do that live video. Do the live video, whatever it says. Do the opposite. Every time you act against that inner voice, you weaken the hold that it has on you. When you're thinking too much and you're overthinking and you're over analyzing and you're literally talking yourself out of it. Just take action. Just take the next best action, little baby step when you feel that fear. Just do it now and build the habit of not giving this inner voice a say in your decisions. Right? We need to understand is that this little inner voice is literally showing you what you need to work on. You've got to go through it, because that's the only way. So don't let it stop you. Go through the fear. Your Comfort Zone is where your dreams go to die. So you've got to push beyond the fear to grow. You can't wait until you're comfortable. You can't wait until you're ready. There is no perfect time. You just have to embrace the fear and do it anyways. You have to jump off the ledge knowing that your parachute will be there right, be comfortable, seeking discomfort, and just take action on the life that you want do what's hard and just push through the comfort zone. Nothing great has ever, ever, ever, ever happened to someone in this world who decided to stay in their comfort zone. Every person that you look up to, they aren't people who stay in their comfort zone. They're not so you have the ability to change your brain, but your brain doesn't change by doing the same thing. Your brain changes by doing different things over and over again. You do something different, okay? You start to get comfortable. We're going to do something different again, grow get comfortable, do something different, and you just repeat that cycle over and over and over again. Your brain creates thoughts. Your thoughts then go on to create feelings. Those feelings create action or no action. And then you get your result, and your results either change your life or they keep it the same.
So you've got to be the type of person who says, You know what? I'm going to be a different person now. I'm going to be different. I'm going to do things differently. Whenever I hear my little inner voice trying to stop me, I'm going to do the opposite. I'm going to take the action even if I feel the fear. The fear is not real. These little inner whispers in our head that are trying to derail us are not reality. It's just trying to keep me safe. But I'm looking around and there's no one around trying to attack me, right? I'm not about to get jumped in the middle of a dark alley. I'm just thinking about doing that next thing I want to do to make my life better, so that I can live my best life, and then I can grow into the best version of my life, so that way I can look back and think, hey, you know what? I put it all on the table, and I got no regrets now.
So I hope today's episode helped you out. If you loved it. Share it with a friend. That would be awesome. You can tag me on Instagram @katherinereuter, and thanks so much for being here. You know I love you. I think you're awesome, and I will see you the next time. Bye.
