Hey, my friend, what is up and welcome back to another episode of Do Life Big, I am so excited to have you here. Once again, thank you so much. Today's episode is going to be a good one. And today we're going to be talking all about what I feel are the most biggest decisions that you'll make in your life and why you should focus on these decisions. And be very careful with what you decide to do. You know, there's a lot of tiny little decisions that we make throughout our life. But there are a few decisions that are really, really big. And I think that you should want to master and focus on these.
So the first one I'm going to dive into is who you surround yourself with, you know, who you surrounding yourself with, you become who you surround yourself with, you know, when you actually go for a walk with someone, something unconscious happens, either they adjust to your pace, or you adjust to their pace, it is not just that, but your heart and your breath also sync up, you adjust and you become who you surround yourself with this is how powerful it is. For example, there was a study done that showed that if you have a group of friends who are overweight, then you have a 35% chance of becoming overweight as well, within the next six months, you know, and I have people tell me sometimes well, I have these toxic relationships. And trust me, I get it, right, I'm sure we can all say that we've been in toxic relationships or have known toxic people. But you've got to get out of it. Because at the end of the day, you are treated the way that you allow people to treat you, you can't go and you can't blame other people for the lack of the life, or the lack of success that you have, you've got to own it, and take full responsibility for everything.
Listen, the second that you take full responsibility for every single decision in your life, that's the second that everything will change for you. You know, you will literally lower your standards to those who are around you. So how can you get around people who will make you raise your standards, that's what you should be asking yourself. Me personally, I'd like a few really good friends who are making me better than having just a big group of friends who are keeping me in exactly the same place. So you've got to get with people who are on the same life path as you. So that's the first big, big, big decision. And these that I'm going to go through are in no order from like most important to least important. These are just what I feel are the most important decisions that you will ever make in your life.
The next thing is where are you going to live? Right? People always say Location, location, location, right? Where are you going to live? Now, some people they want to live by their family. Some people want to grow themselves in their business. And sometimes those two things don't line up. Right? A lot of times, they actually don't line up. So you've got to make a decision. Now listen, I'm not saying that you can't go on and build a business by your family. I'm just saying that. I personally believe and this is just my personal opinion. But I personally believe that it is so important to move away from the city that you grew up in for at least a few years. Because when you get away from who you were, you can start to build yourself into the person you're meant to be. You can become a brand new person in a brand new place.
You know, I grew up in Massachusetts, I lived there for 35 years of my life. My entire family lives up in Massachusetts and Rhode Island. And when I made the decision seven years ago, to move down to Florida, it was a very you know No, this is a dream of mine. I don't want to wait until I retire, I had been doing my health and fitness business, we were doing really well financially, my husband was working from home anyways, becoming an entrepreneur gave me that ability to open my eyes and really see the future for myself and for my family. And it really allowed me to make the decision to act now, instead of just waiting until one day we stopped working. And we were like, 55 or 60 years old. And we hope and pray that we're healthy enough to move to someplace sunny, and then we hope and pray that we're both healthy enough and alive, you know, my husband, and I had to travel and do the things that we want to do. It was more of, I want to do this now. Why wait. And so I made that decision to move down to Florida, seven years ago. So just ask yourself, and look at the city that you grew up in, and just ask yourself, is it helping you grow into the person that you want to be, are the people helping you grow into the person you're meant to be? If it is, then great, that's freaking awesome. Stay put, you don't need to go anywhere. But if it's not, then maybe consider going somewhere else for just a few years, and see what happens. My entire life completely changed when I relocated.
Alright, the next biggest decision that you're ever going to make is who you're going to marry. Or if you're going to marry at all, listen, this is your life. So you need to do what you want to do. A lot of people decide to marry someone because it just feels like it's the right time. Or not the person's a good person, even though they're not really in love with them. And they know they don't have the chemistry together. Or there's all these other external reasons why people choose to get married, when deep down. It's really not the decision that they wanted to make at the time, but they feel like they have to a lot of people do that. And 50% of people who get married get divorced. So are you going to be that person who's going to just marry somebody? Because you've been with them for all these years? And now it's the right time and you kind of feel pressured into it? Or are you going to marry someone who you're going to grow with?
You know, for me personally, I always wanted to marry someone. And we've been married for 17 years now, Nick and I but I always wanted to marry someone who would make me better, someone who would support me and support my growth. And who would want to also grow with me, I wanted my marriage to be like, we were a team, we did everything together, we helped each other we support each other no matter what that was what was important to me. So, you know, that's a question that you need to ask yourself, Who are you going to marry? Do you even want to get married? And there's no right or wrong answer it is what is what you feel is right for you. But it's definitely an important decision. And it should be something that you really think carefully about. And sometimes you're gonna make some hard decisions, right? Sometimes, you know, you might be with somebody for a while and you're like, you know, I just don't see myself going forever with this person. And maybe you might need to cut ties, and get rid of the goods so you can find the great.
Alright, the next biggest decision that you should focus on, is what you're going to do now to make some money, because you need money, right? Money is really important to some people. And for others, it's just not, don't ask me how it's not important to some people. I mean, you need money to live, you need money to support your family, you need money to be able to put a roof over your head and buy your children clothes, if you have kids or take them on vacations and everything costs money, right. But some people want their passion to be their paycheck, you know, and that's what happened to me. And that's great. That's why I started actually with teaching with my teaching career before I had kids, I was a teacher for 10 years, I went into that profession, because yes, I did love children. But I also wanted to have an impact. I wanted to have a job where I felt I had purpose. And I made a difference. So I did that for you know, 10 years before I had kids. And then I turned my passion of helping others get healthy and fit. And helping them develop a positive mindset. As a separate business once I had children. You know, my purpose is to make an impact on others lives in some positive way, even if it's in the tiniest little way. And if I'm not doing that, then I feel so unfulfilled. Some people, they want to make their money with their job, and then they want to live their passion outside of their paycheck. Now, none of these options are wrong. And none of these are like this is the right option. It's all about what you want. But then you also have to realize as well that, you know, when we're talking about earning money and what you're going to do to earn money, you have to also really realize too, that many divorces happen because of issues with money or lack of communication. So you've got to be in agreement with your spouse about how you're going to be earning money. And here's the thing, you're going to spend the majority of your waking hours working. So wouldn't you rather do some thing that you love. And the options are freaking endless these days. So whether you work for someone else, or you have your own business, are you doing something that you love. Or are you doing something that's sucking the life out of you, you know, don't waste your life away, just clocking in and clocking out every day just to make a paycheck. We all have to do something for money. So just choose wisely and make sure something that you really like.
The next big decision that you should focus on is, who do you want to be in your lifetime? And the values that you want to have? Now listen, I'm not talking about achievements, and going out and achieving different things. But I'm talking about who are you? You know, when you achieve something, that's a doing thing? That's just an action thing? So I'm not talking about that I'm talking about who you want to be. Who do you want to be known for? How do you want to be remembered?
And, you know, for example, I remember way back on 911. We knew this family, and they had known my family for our entire life. And their daughter, Lynn was in the second plane that went into the World Trade Tower, flight 175. Her name was Lim Goodchild. And her parents had been friends with my family since before I was even born. And she was only 25 years old, when she was on that plan that day with her boyfriend. And I remember going to her funeral and seeing how many people were there. So many people were there, because she was just such a good person. She was so kind, she was so caring, like she always had a smile on her face. She was funny, she was nice to everybody. And that's how you want to be remembered, right? It's not about how much money is in your bank account when you die. It's about the impact that you've had on others, and how you've made them feel along the way. You know, when you have your funeral? What do you want people to say about you? What do you want your character traits to be? What do you want your values to be? Do you want to be humble giving? Do you want to be loving? Do you want to be funny? Do you want to be a great friend, a great parent, whatever it is, what do you want people to say about you? How do I want to be known? And this is something that you should honestly really sit down and spend a lot of time thinking about and even writing it down. If you have this all written down, and you have it written down somewhere about who do I want to be in my lifetime? And what are the values that are important to me? What Who do I want to be known for? How do I want to be remembered? If you have it written down, then it will act as a guide to help you in every situation every single day with how you respond to stressful events or stressful people when things happen. It will help guide you with how you react to all of those things. So what is important to you, and just get really clear on that.
And the last biggest decision is, what are you going to dedicate your life to? If you don't dedicate your life to something, then what is the point? And it could be anything, it could be your children, it could be your business, it could be you know your work, it could be helping homeless people. There's really no wrong answer here. But what is that for you? You don't want to be waking up every day, and just going through life passively. Because what is the point in that? So why are you here? What the heck do you want to do with this life and age doesn't matter. I don't care if you're 40 or 50 years old, the average person is living to in their 90s these days. So maybe you were living the first 40 years of your life a little unconsciously, a little passively. But now you're going to decide to wake up and you're going to be a little bit more conscious about the decisions that you're making and the way that you're living your life. And that's absolutely fine. Have something that you're trying to do, or some way that you're trying to help the world.
So that was it for today's podcast episode. Just really quickly to go over my top, most biggest decisions that you will ever make in your life and how you should focus on them are number one who you're going to surround yourself with. And number two, where are you going to live? Number three, who are you going to marry? Number four? What are you going to do for money? Number five, who do you want to be in your life and what are your values? And number six, what are you going to dedicate your life to? I hope that you enjoyed today's episode. Thanks so much for being here. You know, I love you and I think you're awesome. And I will see you the next time. Bye.
