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Today's episode is all about why personal development isn't enough, and how just living your life can truly unlock your true potential. I'm so big on this. I'm so big on personal development. And I've been a part of the personal development industry now in it, and a part of it for over 10 years now. And this is kind of the way that I look at it is that life is really our biggest teacher really is like going through life, the ups, the downs, all the ebbs and flows, it's all there to teach you lessons. And to help you grow as a person.
The problem is that a lot of people don't really see it or look at it this way. But all the good or the bad. Even all the neutral things that are happening to you are all there as opportunities to help grow you. There's literally lessons at every corner of your life, if you can choose to look at it this way. And one of the biggest misconceptions is that people think that, hey, if I just listen to a podcast, or hey, if I just read this book for 10 minutes a day, or meditate in the morning, or journal, or go to, you know, go to that live event, or whatever it is that their personal development is done. Like it's like, check done, I can move on, I can say I did it, and carry on with it with our day.
But all of these are great ways to get personal development into your life. Definitely hands down. No doubt I do them too. But they're just one aspect of it. It's not the only thing to improve yourself just actually going through and reading the book for 10 minutes or listening to the podcast.
Life is your opportunity for personal development. Every day, the day to day, the whole however many hours you're awake, which I feel like I'm awake constantly, for God's sakes consider I get no sleep at night. Thank you, Keegan. But the all every day all day, all the hours that you are awake. That is your personal development, personal development is you personally developing and growing. It's you saying hey, how can I look at everything as a gift that has been given to me as an opportunity to learn and grow?
Hey, you know, some people, they'll read the book, and then they'll think it's great. And they'll think it's awesome. And they think, Hey, I'm you know, I'm doing something good for myself. I'm growing as a person and then they are, but then personal developments over and they go out into the kitchen and they get into an argument with their spouse. Totally normal, right? Not realizing that that argument was the biggest and most important piece of personal development for them that day. So just think about it. How often has the universe gifted you with opportunities to learn about others and yourself or the world around you? But you completely missed it.
Right, you're in that argument for a reason, you're in that disagreement with your spouse for a reason. Maybe it was something that your significant other had been doing over and over and over again. And you never spoke up or never said anything about it. You never really told them how you felt about you just kept shoving it under the rug until one day, you finally tripped over the bumper of the rug, and then you exploded about it. And you just said something to them, like you totally blew up and overreacted. What were you supposed to learn from that?
Maybe the universe was trying to show you, Hey, you got to speak your truth more, you've got to speak up more often. Maybe you should have better communication with your spouse. Were you triggered in some sort of way? What was it that triggered you and why? The universe is literally giving you a gift. And every time that you get triggered, that's the universe or God, whatever you want to call it saying, Hey, hello, this is the area that you are fully that you are not fully free. And yet, we need to work on this.
So triggering is a massive opportunity to learn. Seeing your life as a classroom is the biggest opportunity for you to grow. books, podcasts, live events, journaling, whatever it is, yes, they are all great aspects of personal development. But the most important one is your life so that you can learn and grow and become the best person you are meant to be. So your life was a classroom and you're in class all day long, right? All day long. But are you seeing it that way? We need to start to see it this way. So think about it. And think about how you can relate this to your life? Where is this triggering coming from?
You can have one person get completely triggered by something that happened with their spouse, but then have another person go through the exact same thing with their spouse and not get triggered from it. Why is that? It's not the trigger. It's not the trigger. It's, it's you. And we need to figure out where that's coming from. We need to figure out why is that triggering you?
Why are we 40 years old and still triggered by something for example, that happened a long, long time ago back when you were a child possibly. But this is happening, because it's here to show you that you still aren't free from this yet. So reading the book is important. For sure, keep reading the books. But what's even more important is mastering this game of life.
So for example, you might be listening to this podcast right now. You're in the car, your kids are with you, you're on the way to target and you've decided to pop on this podcast, and you're feeling really good, you pull into Target, feeling great, because you know you've done some personal development now, you're working on improving yourself as a person, you feel even better. Because hey, this is great, set up putting on my rap music or my hip hop jams. I have on this Do Life Big Podcast in the background, and my kids are hearing it as well. So they're becoming better too without even really realizing it. And then you get into Target. And your kids have a total meltdown, complete meltdown. Now we can all relate to this.
Trust me, I know what it's like to have a three year old have a total meltdown in the store. This is why I try to avoid the stores with him right now. But your kids have a total meltdown. That right there is your biggest opportunity for personal development. This is the biggest chance right here right now for you to learn and grow. Can you learn how to keep calm in the middle of that storm? I know it's not easy.
But can you learn how to keep calm in the middle of that storm that you're going through? As your child is having a temper tantrum in the middle of target and everyone is staring at you? Can you use this as an opportunity to show them that it's a safe place for them to express their emotions when they're losing their shit? Can you use this chance of staying calm during this one particular storm and get calm during that storm, so that you can then be calm in other storms that are thrown at you in life.
So that temper tantrum is there as an opportunity for you to learn and grow. Clearly, I still need to work on this when it comes to my three year old Keegan, who is in the phase of throwing and hitting. This is a phase that we are still working on. And it's okay. We all have these areas that we're trying to work on. But clearly I haven't mastered it yet. Because he keeps throwing he keeps hitting. And I keep reacting the same exact way. And every time he does that. I feel like I'm about to lose my shit. I have to just force myself to just kind of walk away. Breathe through it. Stay calm. It's going to be okay. This phase of life is going to pass. What's going on here? How can you try to make it better? Yeah, maybe he needs less tablet time, maybe a little bit less sugar. Who knows what we're gonna work through it, we're going to figure it out. And we're going to learn and we're going to all grow from this, right?
So you're working on your mental muscles at the mental muscle gym every single day. And the way that I approach it when the shit hits the fan in my life now, after all these years of being in the personal development industry, is I literally always say, Thank you universe, or Thank you, God, for coming through this way, so that I can see that I'm still not free from this issue. So that I can learn I can grow from this experience. It's all there for a reason. It's all there to teach you a lesson that you need to learn. So you can become the best version of yourself.
So when you notice that triggering, just stop for a second and think, what is it that's triggering you, it's all a gift for you. You just need to be aware of what it is for you. This is something that I work on daily, it's not easy, but I work on it daily, because it's normal for us to be triggered.
But what's more important is that we take some time to think and breathe through it and use it as an opportunity to to grow from versus just shoving it deep down, or brushing it under a rug and pretending like it doesn't exist and not acknowledging it. We're all still working on it. And that's totally okay. So every single little thing that happens to us, whether it be happiness, sadness, anger, rage, whatever, it's all there as an opportunity to help us grow. And if we miss those chances, then we aren't able to continue to grow as a person.
Listen, the truth is, the highest version of yourself isn't going to be found in a book. It's found on the other side of that breakdown. So don't resist the feelings or don't shame yourself. Just breathe through it. Be aware of it and ask yourself, What am I feeling right now? Like, okay, well, I'm feeling a lot of stress right now feeling pretty anxious, I feel like I'm gonna lose it. I have a lot of anxiety. Okay, well, why am I feeling this way right now.
And you just work through it this way. And then what you realize is that you start to get a little bit better, and a little bit better and a little bit better. And you realize that it's all a gift for you, the good, the bad, the neutral things, they're all gifts. So please don't resist them. Allow them to come through your resistance to these things doesn't help you. It's not going to serve you. Working through them allows you to show up as a better version of you for the people who are around you who love and care about you the most. And that is what matters. That's what's important.
So remember, your life as a classroom. And are you pulling those lessons out that you need? All right. I hope that you enjoyed today's episode. Thanks so much for being here. I think you're awesome. I think you're amazing. You know, I love you keep crushing it, I believe in you. And I will see you the next time. Bye. Bye.
